Don’t blink or you’ll miss it. It seems like it was yesterday that I gave birth to my first born and just delivered my second this morning. It seems like I was holding onto them in the hospital wondering how I can do this, how and when did I become a mom. Cradling them in my arms and holding on tight in fear that I miss a blink. Watching their face and lips and fingers and promising that I will always be there.
Then I blinked.
And here I am planning my first boy’s birthday party. You see, he wants a pirate themed party because at four years of age he can talk and decide. He comes to me with feelings and ideas and jokes and pranks. Wasn’t he just my newborn? Wasn’t I rocking him to sleep and trying to figure out how to put his diaper on? Wasn’t I scared to give him a bath all by myself and felt that great achievement when I finally summed up the courage? Where did that baby go?
Then I blinked.
And my second boy was walking and talking. He’s a funny fellow who imitates everything he sees and loves to dance. He too has things he likes and he too can decide whether he wants to go out or stay in (he always decides to go out of course.) Where did my baby go? Wasn’t I crying for fear of not being there for him, for fear of not giving him the care I gave his brother, the undivided attention and the hours spent alone? When did he grow up and what did he eat?
And now I am too afraid to blink.
Too afraid to miss a milestone, too afraid to miss out on a smile or a tear. I am too afraid to be unavailable, to not know what they feel or what they like. I am too afraid to miss out on the hours of the days that make them happy, too afraid to have someone else influence them. There’s so much to do and so little time.
How can I schedule music classes, self defense classes, homework, and fun time when they’re older? It’s all fun time and I barely seem to be holding on to my sanity. It’s all fun time and I miss them at the end of every single tiring day.
Oh yes, the days are long… sometimes much too long… much too tiresome but in the end they are limited. Create memories one day at a time and honestly, try not to blink.