We like to think that we have “everything under control” and that the time spent doing things not on the top of our priority list is an actual choice we made. Ha! Wake up and smell the coffee. Who is really pulling your strings?
Values and preconceptions have been embedded in out minds from a young age and seldom do we question their validity. We do not question why our parents raised us a certain way and why they enrolled us in a certain school. We take it as a given that they were and always will be looking out for our best interests. Now let’s assume that somebody’s parents were selfish people who couldn’t care less what he did in school and who he’s hanging around with. Does it mean that the strings they are supposed to hang on to and care for get thrown down for anyone to pick up? Yes, that’s precisely what it means.
If parents are not there to “pull their children’s strings” before the children are all grown up and can pull their own strings, someone bigger and probably not wiser will be more than happy to control them. Watch out for your kids.
Alright, back to you. Now after we as children were being controlled by our parents’ values and limits, we quickly graduated to have the school teachers have some control. This control doesn’t necessary mean it’s bad, on the contrary, it means that we still need some guidance before the time is right and we’re ready to fly from the best.-
The issue lies when we are introduced to a bigger circle. Friends included in a bigger social circle, the society and its many different ideologies, sometimes religion and people who represent it, celebrities, people with big names, people with no names, your neighbor, your local milk man, anybody can hold your strings and control you when you least know it. What can you do? Don’t allow it.
Don’t allow anyone to take control. Hold your own strings and stand your ground in regards to your beliefs. You may be surprised that one day you will turn from being the puppet to being the puppet master.
Influence, do not let people influence you
Lead, do not be satisfied with being led.
Make your own mark, find your own voice, and speak. Believe in yourself: you are your number one everything. Do not allow yourself to be controlled
Control, who’s really holding your strings?